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How to find joy in the ordinary


It’s what we see as normal daily life that if you don’t take the time to appreciate it, it passes by as just another day.


My life has been so full on with events that the speed of change seems more dramatic than usual.


My children are living across the country building their own lives, family relationships on every level are changing, and then my uncle, my dad’s brother, died yesterday. It always felt as though he were my last connection to my dad, but, of course, the link to anyone, living or not, is as strong or weak as you intend to be. But I digress…


In other words, if you allow it all to go by without taking the time to internalize it, stress accumulates, and you fall from your path.


I talk from not only what is happening in my life right now, but years of experience losing myself to the daily battles of change. You know the story, raising kids, aging parents, careers, finances, relationships; it’s all there, and everyone passes through it.


The thing is, how you move through any challenge, even the most difficult is entirely up to you.

For the most part, you can’t control outside circumstances, but you can control how you react, and whether or not, it circumvents your life.


I honestly don’t know anyone who hasn’t gone through stuff that pushed them, and then they had to find a way to get back or to recover the person they felt they lost because of it.


The thing is, you need to know where you’re going before you can get “back” there.


When we are young, and in school, you are taught to study for tests, then college to focus on a career, then to raise children to be independent adults, for example. Then, it seems, you’re on your own, and if you haven’t created a specific path to follow or designed the ultimate destination that you’re striving for now, “getting back on” may be pretty unrealistic.


The thing is there’s always a way.


It starts with a decision that you’re no longer willing to sidestep the life you were meant to live.

Then take the time to ask yourself, what do you want and how does it make you feel?


What is the goal at the end of your path as you see it now with the awareness that it’s always evolving and changing?

Visualize it

To get there, you need to release the hold the triggers have on you. Release the pain, anger, shame, guilt, and fear from the past and open the space and time for what lights you up and brings back to where you want to go.

Ask yourself – If you were already living this life, how would act? What would you be doing? How would spend your day and who would be with you? How would you build your business or take care of your health?

**Be specific and step into the person you need to be to achieve it!


It’s never too late, and there’s always more. It’s how you create your life and thus the relationships in your life. Release the hold and the triggers and step into the flow of what’s right and what’s waiting for you.


You hold power.

You create the life, the relationships, and the opportunities that light you up.


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