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A Star is Born

Updated: Apr 14

Last week I saw A Star is Born with my mom. Lady Gaga who plays Ally in the movie was brilliant, and her voice is incredible. Bradley Cooper who played Jack, was of course, gorgeous, and a great singer too.


I really enjoyed it, and as with most good movies, there were some powerful messages in it.


While I vaguely remember a previous version with Barbara Streisand, I do remember how gorgeous I thought Kris Kristofferson was at the time. Ok, maybe that's not the most important part.


What I missed in that version was the part where the character Ally minimizes herself and her stardom and fame, to make Jack feel good. Even though it was clearly her raw talent that skyrocketed her to the top, she somehow thought she owed him to be less than him.


It was larger than life representation of how many women, most much less famous than Ally or Lady Gaga or Barbara Streisand, spend their lives minimizing themselves and playing small for the people they love.


Back then, I wouldn't have found any similarities to real life. I've since learned how many women shift who they are, and especially their brilliance, to dim their light. I was one of them, and trust me, it's always a work in progress.


We've been long since programmed to take care of everyone. The thing is when you're at your best, you do your best work including caring for those you love.


Jack was jealous of her fame, her incredible voice, and presence. He was masking a lifetime of hurt and pain with alcohol and drugs, and with that, no matter what she did would ever make it better.


Ally, giving it away, in addition to enabling his addictions, was going down a hard path. It wouldn't have gotten better, and a matter of fact, it was going to get a lot worse.


Like most women, she felt it, and she took it upon herself to ease the pain for everyone involved. It's the same old story of women dims her light for the people she loves.


The only way real or lasting way to lift people up is to lift yourself up. Getting back to focus and inner security of who you are and what you stand for.


Ally portrays a strong woman, who makes it big against the odds, but by her giving herself away she is showing how out of alignment she is with her own values and vision.


The key is re-aligning within. Knowing what you want, where you're going and why it's important is the first step. Understand what you need, and the other things fall into place. With a solid, yet evolving base, you will set stronger boundaries and vibrationally better treatment.


The thing is, it starts with you. You can't change the way they think or feel, but you can change how you see your place at the table.


Did you see the movie, and what did you think?