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Why you need to let it go

You know all those things that happen over the course of your life that jump back into your head at odd times, and you can’t help it, but it makes you mad!

At a dinner, last night, one of the women there was telling the table about the things that have happened to her in her life and her exact words were, “and this is why I cannot get anything right in my life.” All the other people nodded their heads in agreement as if to say they understood.

I understood because I used to feel this same way. I was completely stuck and held back by my circumstances. I felt so much happened outside of my control. I couldn’t see a way to get past it.

The thing is I knew that either I could stay here and continue in the same way as before; uninspired, gaining weight, going on as though being there for everyone else was enough.

Then, I started noticing that the worse I felt about my situation the more I wanted to just withdraw from things. I didn’t feel as though I had anything to offer. I didn’t have the friends I once had, and I felt even my kids didn’t want to spend as much time with me. At first, I blamed it on them being teenagers, but that wasn’t it.

The thing is that I was allowing all these things that happened to me, this morning, last week or even 20 years ago, to continue to take space up in my life.

I was allowing all these things to make me angry, or hurt me, and literally change the physiology of my body, over and over again.


I was sick of feeling as though I was not a part, not confident, not how I used to be, or just not enough.

Finally, I learned how to release the things that were holding me back, and taking me away from what I wanted to do.

I get it, all that stuff still pisses you off, but it is also taking your energy and your time.

You are worth so much more than your circumstances!

As long as you are holding on to the negativity of the past, it is going to hold you back and keep you stuck. The only way to break free is to let it go. One way to do that is through forgiveness.

Forgiveness does not make what was said or done OK, and it doesn’t take the other person off the hook. It only releases the emotions from your body, and it’s only for you!

It is not something you share with the other person or tell the other person in any manner. It takes place in your mind, and it gives your mind the power to decide what you will and will not allow. It is 100% about you reclaiming your space, time and energy.

It releases you from the pain, and it allows you to fill that space with the things you want and desire in your life.

It puts you back in control over your emotions and what drives you through your day.

Think about it. If you allow things from your past to continue to hurt you, it makes that same incident that happened yesterday or long ago, the power to hurt you over and over again. So you are allowing that person who hurt you to win over and over too.

Take your power back! Time to be in control of your own emotions! Time to stop giving your time, energy and emotions away so freely.

You are the only who decides what your time is worth!

You are 100% responsible for every part of your life including your thoughts and emotions. Time to turn it around.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness that most frightens us.

We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love, we’re not extending in the present.

The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.

Marianne Williamson