Updated: Feb 8, 2019
This past weekend my husband and I were celebrating the fact that we had two happy, well-adjusted children at the same time.
It’s not that there was ever anything wrong with my children, but if you have had kids go through middle school, high school, or honestly any school, they’ve had some hard moments. With two girls, it is more likely that you have gone through lots of them to get them where they are.
As the mom, I often sensed that I felt their difficult times more than they did. As they went through transitions so did I.
Sometimes they would move through them, and I’d have no idea. I would spend the day just hoping everything went ok, and then, of course, I couldn’t just straight out ask them. You have to kind of work around the subject as not to pry, and because teenage girls can be tricky. So by the time you had a chance to find out where they were at and how things went today, you’d find out the whole situation resolved last night, and they just didn’t tell you.
As much as I thought I was in the loop, I wasn’t usually the top rung. Of course, that was perfectly fine, and I was always happy to have played a part. The point is kids go through a lot of changes, transitions, moods, experiences or stages and they are not always so easy.
So this past weekend, we were discussing this small miracle that both of my daughters are at a good place at the same time. We are celebrating for them and the moment, because we understand it is just a moment in time.
It’s more like a moment in time when the clouds are perfectly aligned, but also knowing any kind of growth will push them out of the zone of comfort into a period of uncertainty on the way to the next phase.
While this temporary bliss is what you strive for your children, you equally want them to push through and move forward as well.
At the same time, you need to consistently be pushing yourself to your next phase and through that zone of comfort as much as your children. In the daily struggle to make sure everything is right for your family and business and whatever else you are taking care of, you also need to be taking time to make sure you are feeling just as good about your next step.
It’s so easy to get involved in everything that requires your attention. Wherever you are on your path, if you want to move forward confidently, you need to continue to reset your mind in that same manner. To do any of this, you need to be clear about what you want and how you want to feel when you get there.
The thing is, people, treat you, in the same manner, you feel about yourself whether it’s your kids or your coworkers. If you think from a deep level that there is more for you, then you need to work on you.
It all starts with a decision to take control of emotions, your circumstances and your future. It’s a decision to be a present and active participant in your own life on your terms. It’s a decision to make those simple shifts to get started.
It’s understanding that the simplest shifts that make the biggest changes. Please schedule a totally free strategy call, here. Please join my totally free Facebook group here. I can’t wait to talk with you!