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How to prepare for your next phase

Preparing for the next phase, but I’m not sure whose.

I packed up my daughter’s college apartment and brought her home, spent some time taking care of her as she had her wisdom teeth out, and now started packing her up to move across the country to her first corporate job.

It’s been a full month of travel. We’ve visited our kids and attended other events. Wednesday, I’ll be on the road again. I am driving about 16 hours to Denver so she can have her car there. Then, I will fly home on Sunday and she will start her new job Monday morning.

My husband will be joining us for the weekend to help out and see that his little girl has adjusted to her new environment. At least as much as it is possible.

So, we are going through boxes and trying not to go down memory lane. This isn’t college anymore, but her adult life. She is nervous and excited, and so am I.

This is a new phase for all of us. We are cleaning out as much as possible as she is packing and my thoughts are all over the place.

I can say I am excited for what’s to come. There was a long time I didn’t think I would be because I want to live near her. That’s not to say I won’t miss my daughters. It’s my dream that we all live near each other again and I plan to make sure of it.

I always want them to be a major part of my life. The thing is I have also been adamant that they find what they want to do and what makes them happy, even if it is not what I wanted for them.

I have spent a long time aligning my life to what makes me happy, and to do that, I had to leave a lot behind. Having said that, I’ve always pushed my daughters to find what makes them happy and I understand that doesn’t always align with what’s best for me. I fully support whatever path they choose.

I have found that it is both easy and hard to watch them grow and move on. I am so very proud of whom they have become and that they are following their dreams, even though I will miss being a part of their everyday life.

This is a huge transition for everyone involved and with every transition, there is a level of uncertainty. It’s that uncertainty that brings up those old feelings of fear, guilt, anger, etc. So, it makes sense then in every transition, to limit the uncertainty.

To do this, you need to be clear on your own path. It’s always about the clarity and taking the time to figure out what’s right for you.

What do you want? What do you dream about? How does this phase look to you right now?

What do you want to see when you look back a year from now? How about five years from now?

Honestly, you’ve been preparing your kids for this day since they were born. It makes perfect sense that you also need to be prepared. Not only financially, but also emotionally and spiritually as well. It’s making the shift to whatever phase you’re in not only smooth but also one that you actively look forward to.

When you fully embrace where you are and the opportunities that exist at every age, every transition gets easier and even welcomed. Creating a vision for what you want and where you’re going allows your life to flow. Flowing effortlessly through each phase also makes it easier for your children to flow through their changes as well.

Everything is connected. Helping your children grow into who they are and allowing them to see you embrace who you are, enhances each transition, strengthens family bonds, and limits uncertainty. It’s the cycle of life. Gaining clarity, letting go, and moving on to what’s real, what’s now, and what’s to look forward too.

If you are holding on to the past and are ready to shift into a space of strength and happiness, let’s talk.

I work with powerful women, leaders, and successful businesswomen often at the height of their careers, and those who are no longer there but still feel they are on the inside.

If you feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself over the years, and that you’ve been taking care of everyone else but somewhere along the way forgot about you, and you want to feel empowered again, and look forward to what’s ahead, I want to hear from you. Message me here on Facebook and let’s talk.

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