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How to lift your life

Updated: Jun 5, 2018

We are on a flight to Vegas, and I am excited about a couple of days alone with my husband. In a few days, we are meeting our daughters in Phoenix, and of course, there is nothing that makes me happier than having my family together. I never thought I’d be in the phase of my life when my kids live across the country from me, because well, apparently, I feel way too young for that!

They’ve both been away for a few years now including college, so I am used to it. While I miss them, I’ve always been a huge proponent of them following their dreams and finding what makes them happy. Better they are secure in who they are than stay back because it’s comfortable.

I feel uncomfortable writing this because I think that other people can see my screen which is all has to do with a certain level of hiding. It’s just another reason to continue to step into who you are today, and what’s right for you now. Honestly, I am pretty sure that there isn’t anyone on this flight which gives a shit about what I am writing, so it’s time to give up whatever part is still hiding and step into what this life has to offer.

It’s that old feeling of minimizing yourself, which sadly is the norm for many women. I was no different. You give yourself away by taking care of everyone, the career, the family and just doing it all. However, it all requires a certain level of appeasement to go with the flow when it’s not right for you.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with comprising when you need to, but there is often a fine line between appeasing, minimizing and compromising before it becomes resentment.

No, this isn’t about accusing any man, or other people that you may feel are to blame, it’s merely a fact. It’s normal for women to believe they need to do and be it all for everyone, but this thinking carries with it a huge price.

The price is you; your dreams, your talents, among other things, your personality. You start to blend into the background rather than standing fully in who you are.

It’s as though you’re playing a part that somehow you feel others expect of you, but you’re never quite sure you’re doing it right.

Along the way, things change, and you begin to wonder where you fit, and you start to dream of the days that things were better, lighter more fun.

So many things happened, so many circumstances that were out of your control, and before you knew it, you found yourself feeling alone, disconnected, and wanting more.

The rest of my family was thriving, and from the outside, we appeared to have it all, but I wasn’t happy. It wasn’t about them; it was about me.

Looking back, I would have never had the courage to say that because I didn’t think anyone would understand, but it’s everywhere and women just like you are holding in their feelings and shortchanging their lives.

I spent a lot of time blaming this circumstance and that person before I realized that I needed to take control and make changes and if I didn’t start now, I might feel worse a year from now.

It starts with a decision of how you want to spend your life and how you want to feel. It’s about stepping into aligning who you are with who you want to be and defining what that means.

It’s about releasing the circumstance, and all the heaviness that you’re holding onto that are keeping you stuck.

There’s no going back to a better, or easier time. It’s all ahead of you and when you stand with all you have learned along the way you give rise to so much more.

It’s time to release it and move forward, focused and excited about what’s ahead.

Please join me for Release and Rise! It’s time! Release, Connect and Expand

-If you’re ready to start releasing thoughts and memories playing in your head and open space for more good

-If you’re willing to gain more Clarity on what you want and how you want to feel

-If you’re prepared to step into a place of deeper CERTAINTY

-If you’re ready to stand in your Power and allow for joy

Please join me for four weeks of Release and Rise

Ten days to help you shift from where you are now to where you want to be.

Release & Rise

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