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How Facing Fear Builds Trust

Updated: Jan 4, 2021

I never thought that fear would be the thing that holds me back in my life. In my earlier days, I was the one who went after the tough opportunities and did the difficult work that needed to be done. I had the mindset of just do it and get it over with, and I never thought a second of what others thought of me. I just did what I needed to do.

Then, like so many women, my life started to change. More responsibility and bigger issues that needed my attention started to chip away at my confidence and that feeling of being in control. For the first time in my life, I didn't exactly know what to do or how to take care of things, and I felt stuck.

I felt that if I made the wrong choice, the consequences would be too great. So I forced myself to take care of everything the best I could, and I blocked all the other things that used to be so important in my life. I couldn't see another way. The fear of making a wrong decision that may hurt my family was holding me back. Fear started a slew of limiting beliefs that I'd never felt before.

Fear produces more fear, and the cycle continues. The stress and daily overwhelm are heavy, and it becomes difficult to get through daily tasks that were hardly a thought before.

To get through, I started counting in my head. It sounds crazy, but that's what worked for me. It helped me stay on task and get through, but honestly, life shouldn't be something you just getting through! This thought process was numbing, like a Band-Aid holding it all together.

I thought I was the only one who felt this way, but I found out so many women stop their lives to take care of everything and lose themselves in the process. I used to think no one else would ever understand putting your life on hold to take care of everything else, and it changes you from the core. So, getting back to you at your core is what is needed to get back in control.

When things get overwhelming, it feels like you should look outside yourself for direction, and you start to believe that others have the answers. Or, when you begin to trust that others know more than you regarding your life, your inner compass shifts.

The only way to combat the fear and move to an area of confidence is by listening to you and your intuition. Journaling is a great way to help you hear your thoughts, and those thoughts in your head are you!

The overwhelm and feeling of stuckness happens when you haven't taken the time to sort them out. Journaling is a way for you to understand where you're at, what you want, and how to get there!

Writing out your thoughts even five minutes a day helps.

For example, write about how you feel at your best or a situation that's heavy on your mind. Then, continue to add your thoughts on the matter, getting as much out as possible.

Releasing your thoughts, whatever they are, opens white mental space that allows new thoughts and ideas to flow. It gives you the freedom to think about new things or ideas you hadn't thought of before.

Those thoughts are YOU, and journaling re-establishes a connection back to your realness or core of you, and where you take your power back.

When you're in control, life becomes more manageable, and things naturally flow and change around you. Here, the fear, overwhelm, and stuck feelings get released, and you create space for the things you want in your life.

It is always just the simplest shifts that make the big difference. I would love to talk with you. Please schedule a totally free discovery call here.

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