A why that's worth it
There is nothing like the feeling of having both of my girls home and just hanging out! Here, lying on the bed, they are taking a series of silly pictures. These are by far my most favorite times. They are also the reason my life took a new direction.
While you may not have had the same experiences I have, I am guessing you may have felt the same emotions.
Without a doubt, raising my girls, and watching them grow into the people they are has been the most amazing thing in my life, and the most difficult.
Throughout the years, our relationships have changed dramatically. Mostly, because they were growing and maturing, but the other part is because of how I felt about myself.
They are my big why! It may be the same for you. I want so many things for them, and I always want to be a big part of their lives.
We were always very close, and as they got older and I was giving everything I had to them and the people around me, and the way I felt about myself changed. I wasn’t as confident or outgoing, and I didn’t want to be involved with the same social things I used to be. I wasn’t as comfortable as before, and so I started staying back and saying no.
Then it happened. Their lives started to go on without me. I had always dreamed of being close to them wherever they were, and especially when they have families of their own someday. We’re not there yet, but I could see the pattern wasn’t getting any better.
The things they used to include me in or invite me to, like just even wanting to hang out with me, starting changing. They were both, in or near, college age so when they were home, I really wanted to be with them. As I began to notice the change, I started to ask them to include me, and I could feel it wasn’t like it used to be. Having to ask to be included in anything is never a good thing, and I couldn’t stand that feeling!
I realized that I wasn’t that same person anymore. I wasn’t me, and I don’t blame them for naturally shying away.
I realized I had to find a way to bring my strength back and be my own person. I had to do that for me because everything that was important to me hinged on me figuring this out.
So what do you do?
You take a step back and decide that building your own strength and being true to yourself is really important. You start with a decision and a belief that it is possible and commit to it. Then, you need to get clear. You need to be clear on what’s important and why, and what you actually want.
While it may not happen overnight, it is clear that trying to be what anyone wants you to be rather than being who you are never works as you think it might. It’s uncomfortable, belittling and a short-term fix.
When you decide to stand in your own power and build your confidence to a place of who you are, the table turns. This is the case whether it is raising kids or building a business. Your real power lies in you.
Start today and start now.
I started with courses, books, and mentors, started working out more and just working on me. The busier I got with things in my own life, the less time I had for other things. They were beginning to understand through my actions that my time was valuable. I was valuable.
I began to feel the shift.
Suddenly, they were calling more and hoping I could make time for them. That wasn’t the only thing. My relationships with everyone, personally and professionally, we’re getting better and stronger and also making the shift.
My life started to open back up, and I wanted to actively participate in it. I went new places and met new people and began to grow my business too.
As I began to walk back into my own power of who I was, my whole life shifted to space where I felt loved and nurtured and excited about the future.
This is what I want for you. Wherever you are, start now.
Today, I am a better role model, mom, and leader. It was worth every moment of heartbreak to get to a place where you look forward to your own future as well as theirs.
These are three things I started to do daily.
I believed it was possible
I made a daily intention.
I discovered my true why and decided I couldn’t live without it.
The glue that holds it all together is gratitude. I am so grateful for my life.
Thank you so much for being here!
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